Last month, I decided to try an organizational tool made and marketed by someone who I respect, Michelle Nickolaisen of Let’s Radiate. The Big Vision Workbook is intended to help users set and focus on their primary goals from “big picture,” monthly, weekly, and daily perspectives. It’s one of those rare organizational tools that works for ADDers (with minor adaptations) even though it’s not specifically intended for us.
I’ve found the Workbook incredibly helpful in the past three weeks I’ve been using it. Michelle’s honest-yet-positive approach to personal inventory makes it easy for me to quickly identify my problem areas while simultaneously honoring and honing in on my strengths. Most impressively, the process is cumulative; the more consistent I am in using these tools (which I’ve combined with pre-existing routines to create über-productivity), the deeper my discoveries at the end of each week and the more effectively I adjust my practices.
Here’s what I’ve learned about myself so far:
- Week 1:
- Under pressure, I sacrifice “me stuff” (i.e., appointments with myself, blog work, down time) and self-care first.
- Week 2:
- I do best with maintaining routines when they/their reminders are automated.
- I forget to schedule days off (overachiever/workaholic tendencies).
- I procrastinate when I am intimidated by a task (i.e., serial blog post).
- I judge myself too harshly (though I actually did quite well this week).
- Week 3:
- Out of sight = out of mind.
- Work that directly advances my goals helps me to focus on doing other work toward them.
- The more actively I follow a system, the more automated and intuitive it becomes over time.
This toolbox has been instrumental in helping me to create the momentum and success that has been manifesting in my life over the past couple of weeks. Since I started using it, I’ve accomplished several things for which I’d been “wishing” for quite a while, but which seemed too abstract to attain:
- I’ve met and begun work with my first client for the the business side of this blog.
- I’ve made my first $100 as a personal organization/life-management coach.
- I’ve started writing the e-book that’s been marinating in my brain for months: a quick-start guide to the Executive Dysfunctions system.
- I’ve begun to develop a cohesive business plan that aligns with my personal values – a service-oriented rather than profit-driven model.
The above items have developed progressively, one coming out of another in a beautifully organic way. This is what happens when I turn my trust and will over to systems that just might work, both in and out of my own creation and control. Michelle’s Big Vision Workbook has given me the opportunity to tie together all of the work, energy, and exercises in faith that I’ve been putting out in the Universe for months and even years – like gathering the strings of so many balloons so I can finally let them lift me up and away.
I highly recommend this toolbox to anyone who feels like they know what they want but can’t seem to figure out how to get it. For pointers on how to adapt Michelle’s approach to the ADD brain, please feel free to email me or leave a comment!
In honor of NaNoWriMo, and to hold myself to my commitment to post more regularly as soon as I move, I will be posting every day in the month of November. I am not, at this point, a novelist, so I’m adopting the idea behind National Novel-Writing Month to put some momentum on this blog.
Some days, the posts will be short (like this one) – a thought on an executive dysfunction, a question to probe deeper evaluation of your own challenges and strengths, etc. I anticipate this will be the case through Nov. 9, when, at long last, I arrive in Paris! (This has been the major project that I’ve prioritized over the blog for the past few weeks). Once I arrive and get settled, I will start hashing out those ideas and tips I’ve been cooking in the back of my multi-track mind during my sojourn (from writing – not from work, by any stretch!). In any event, this is my Next Step toward my goal of making this blog a full-time gig.
So with that, I ask you: On what goals will you follow through by doing one little thing a day?
A brief post tonight to let you know that I am still here and this blog is still active. It just so happens that other areas of my life have been quite active since ending my digital sabbatical on October 9 – so while I resumed Internet use, my habits have been different than before.
Remember that post on Urgency vs. Importance I made recently? It’s quite relevant to my lack of posting. My move date for gay Paris, while not yet set in stone, is less than 3 weeks away, and my move-out date from my apartment is October 31. Thus, my top priorities – both urgent and important – have been sorting, selling, and otherwise paring down my stuff to that bare minimum that will be crossing the Atlantic with me in early November. This blog – which is important, but not urgent – has therefore gone on the back burner until the immediate projects are finished.
In November, you will begin to see new series of posts detailing the components of the system I have already outlined, the process by which I have gone about simplifying my life (which, among other benefits, tranquilizes my executive dysfunctions), and in-depth looks at the science of AD/HD and how it applies to the lives of those who have it (and those who have to live with us).
For now, I recommend taking a look at this article on the impact of ADHD on sleep, which I received in my inbox from CHADD this evening. As someone who’s struggled with sleep regulation my entire life, I found it eye-opening, relieving, and full of useful information. Hopefully you will too. More on regulating daily life cycles in a future post!
Hope you’re all having a great weekend!
Urgency and Importance have long been synonymous terms for me; it’s only been in the past several months that I’ve begun to realize that they are actually two distinct concepts. To this confusion, I attribute much of my difficulty in prioritizing (and, as it turns out, many ADDers have the same issue – this is related to the executive dysfunction in the realm of activation).
The difference, to a degree, lies in nuance; urgency and importance do overlap. The following true statements illustrate the complexity and interrelation of these two enigmatic concepts:
- Urgent things can be important.
- Important things can be urgent.
- Urgent things aren’t necessarily important.
- Important things are often not urgent.
My lightbulb moment – the one in which I began to see what prioritization really meant – came with this realization: Urgent items jump into the forefront of the mind, and insist that they be done right now; important items quietly persist, waiting for attention – and, all too often, expire while the mind is preoccupied with urgency. If I neglect important items in favor of urgent-but-not-important ones, I foster an illusion of productivity that collapses when the important items come due and become urgent. This is a stressful cycle – and an unnecessary one, at that.
Important tasks are proactive – they are purposeful and rationally executed, have lasting repercussions, are gateways to larger goals, and prevent roadblocks to success.
Urgent tasks are reactive – they often push emotional buttons, demand to be done immediately, and give the illusion of importance, but they often can wait. Sometimes they can’t, and must be done at once; when this happens, I must be mindful that I do not get sucked into a domino effect of urgent reactive actions.
For me, the “trick” (or lesson) is to distinguish, when an urgent item pops up, if it is more important than what I am or should be doing at that moment. If it is, I mark my place in the important-but-not-urgent task, attend to the urgent-important one, and return to the previous. If not, I mark the urgent-but-not-important task for later and resume the important one. For example, yesterday I got an urgent phone call that interrupted an important in-person conversation; to prioritize, I excused myself from the present conversation, answered the call, set up a time to call the person back, hung up and returned to the previous important discussion.
- Urgent and Important: do it now.
- Urgent but Not Important: note it and sideline it.
- Important but Not Urgent: focus on it and make it your top priority.
- Not Urgent and Not Important: probably doesn’t need to be done at all.
The above italicized categories are drawn from Stephen R. Covey’s priority matrix, which is featured in his book First Things First. In this work, Covey also discusses the Urgency Addiction. He effectively explains the difference between urgency and importance, and describes how Western culture, particularly in the US, encourages placing urgent tasks over important non-urgent ones. I recommend taking the quiz in this Google Books preview of the chapter – I found it eye-opening.
With that noted, I’m going to wrap up this Important task that Urgently popped into my mind and move onto another Important but Less Urgent agenda!
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My momentum on this blog abruptly dropped off since I fulfilled my 5-day commitment to post daily. I’ve been contemplating why this happened and how I could best remedy it. My answers are fairly simple: this happened because last week, other commitments took higher priority; I can remedy it by evaluating my priorities such that I post more regularly and maintain that forward energy.
This is a perfect example of how life can “get in the way” of the best-laid plans – and how I adjust when that happens. Thus, I’m making it into what we education dorks call a “teachable moment.”
Takeaway #1: Life can’t get in the way of itself – but I can get in my own way.
Much like a winding river, life can change course, swell and ebb, or go from tranquility to rapids in nothing flat. Really, the only predictable thing about life is its unpredictability. Thus, I have come to expect the unexpected, as the saying goes, rather than resist it when it happens. When I try to change things that I can’t control, I am wasting time and energy that I could be devoting to what I actually can change. This is by no means a trait exclusive to those of us with executive dysfunctions. However, it is exacerbated for us because of…
Takeaway #2: Prioritization is counterintuitive to my ADD brain – but I can create structures that make it make more sense.
Prioritization is a baffling concept when your brain can’t naturally analyze and synthesize information (a.k.a., break big things down into smaller components and incorporate small things into the big picture). Of all the typical ADD issues I’ve dealt with, learning to prioritize has been one of the most difficult. However, in recent months I’ve stumbled upon a few tools that help me tame that beast. I now have a few simple questions I ask myself in moments of overwhelmed paralysis that tame the discombobulated beast:
- Do any of the 50 things in my head need to be done right now – i.e., I won’t be able to do them another time, or they are time-specific? If so, I do them. If not, I move on to question 2.
- Which of these things can wait til another day? An hour from now? Five minutes from now? I write these down and put them away for now.
- What’s the least common denominator – the one task or event, big or small, that will get everything else moving once it’s done? (This can be likened to the first domino that, when tapped, pushes all the others forward.) Whether it’s calling to reschedule my dentist’s appointment to accommodate a schedule change, or posting an ad to sell my truck so I can get money to make my Big Move, the least common denominator is the key to getting un-stuck and is often synonymous with the Next Step.
My prioritization abilities were significantly helped by Stephen Covey’s priority matrix (see 2×2 grid by intro) because my biggest hangup in prioritizing is discerning between urgent and important. More on this in a later post.
This lesson was one of the hardest to get through my head. Once I got it, though, I had a much easier time prioritizing. My priorities necessarily fluctuate as old projects end and new ones begin, as commitments ebb and flow, as I come into contact with people and information, and as circumstances change. Thus, in order to be effective in my life, I must constantly examine and evaluate my commitments, tasks, obligations and needs and rearrange them as needed. This practice is called taking inventory. I do it on many scales, from in-the-moment, to daily review, to weekly review, to monthly review. I’ll go into greater detail on the review process in an upcoming post.
At the beginning of this period, my major priorities were as follows: (1) prepping for my move across the pond, (2) developing this blog and my online presence, (3) work and other standing obligations, and (4) everything else.
Starting around the time of my last post, money (or a lack thereof) became a pressing issue when I got my first paycheck since my 25% reduction in hours at my office job (I work for a nonprofit that I love, but is financially struggling). With that came an onslaught of other (related) issues, many in the form of fears: how am I going to pay for groceries? Will I have enough for my phone bill next week? What about next month’s rent? Within seconds, I had gone from looking at a piece of paper with a low number on it to worrying that I wouldn’t be able to afford to move to Paris and all of my hopes and dreams would come crashing down in chaotic despair. In other words, I was spiralling.
So how did I stop the spiral?
I took a deep breath. I gave myself permission to take a 5 to 10-minute break at work. I took another deep breath and exhaled slowly. I asked myself (aloud, because I talk to myself frequently) the three questions from Takeaway #2, and determined that the Least Common Denominator and Next Step was to write out my budget for the rest of the month – projected income, known expenses – and see how much I was going to be short and at what point. This gave me a clear view of the big picture in which I needed to collect and organize my small things.
- That night, posted several items on Craigslist that I’ve been meaning to sell
- The next day, went into my old restaurant job to propose a mutually beneficial arrangement where I worked some shorthanded breakfast shifts while they found a more permanent employee
- Sent out resumes to temp/catering companies on Craigslist
- Re-posted the ad for my truck on Craigslist and the local paper’s site
A couple of days later, through a series of serendipitous events that began while I was out with my dog and chatting with a neighbor, I landed a two-week gig installing internet boxes for the neighbor’s boyfriend’s IT company – which will net me enough to finance October’s rent, miscellaneous expenses (i.e., groceries) and the epic hiking trip my good friend and I have been planning for the first week of October (which will constitute a digital sabbatical for me).
Notice that #3 in that list does not appear in previous lists even though it consists of things I do every day. The reason for this: when I know I’m going to be unusually busy, I have to consciously make time for those maintenance activities, because they end up being the first sacrificed even though their upkeep is essential to my success in those things that are making me so busy.
So, how do you take inventory? What are your major priorities and how do you order and re-order them? What is your biggest challenge in prioritization?
In the realm of time management and productivity, I draw inspiration from several outside sources. In terms of developing a consistent system, I have adapted some of my recommendations from David Allen’s Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity, an organization book geared toward business professionals that can be (mostly) translated to any and all areas of life. Although it is definitely written from the perspective of a highly privileged, upper-class, able-bodied, educated, heterosexual, white American male, this book is an anomaly among mainstream organizing approaches in that many of its tools can be used by people with ADD and other executive function disorders.
A keystone of David’s system – and my own, which incorporates tactics from other sources as well as my own special brain – is what he calls a Next Actions list and what I have dubbed a Next Steps list. This is not the same as a to-do list, which for most people includes everything from two-minute actions like “Call for a hair appointment” to gargantuan undertakings like “Achieve world peace.” A Next Steps list provides an easy reference for specific, actionable tasks – those which you can do, which will move you forward. David’s explanation of this concept provided me a lightbulb moment as far as what wasn’t working in my attempts at time management – especially why it seemed that I could rarely accomplish much of what was on my to-do list. In this aspect, people with and without AD/HD have a common problem: differentiating between “projects” and “actions.”
For example, one cannot, in one fell swoop, “Find a better job.” If that’s on your to-do list, chances are it’s been there for a while and frustrates you every time you see it. You cannot “do” that item because it is a multistep process. It is therefore pointless to put it on your list of actionable items. In this example, “Find a better job” is a project, not an action. In order to execute a project, you first have to break it down to its Fundamental First Step. The process of doing so is often, itself, the Fundamental First Step — breaking things down is an action. Its key question is “What has to happen first?” and it looks something like this:
Big Picture: Find a Better Job
What has to happen first?
- Interview for Jobs
- Update my resume
- Search for Available Jobs
What has to happen before any of these can be done?
→ Determine what kind of new job I want
- A. Stay in current field
- B. Do something else
From here, my next action will vary, depending on whether I choose A or B:
- (If A) Update my resume
- (If B) Brainstorm what “something else” entails (which breaks down into several other steps, but we will stop here for the purposes of this illustration)
And so forth. For me, drawing this out mind-mapping style is more effective than typing it out; I encourage you to experiment and find your own method. Please note:The point of this exercise is not to outline, in minute detail, every step in the process of reaching your goal (though it does provide a convenient overview of the stages you’ll go through). The point is to find the Next Step you need to take to move toward your goal.
So, key terms:
- Project or Goal: Any task that has more than one step (i.e., “Find a better job”)
- Action or Step: Any single-step, “do-able” task; always begins with a verb (i.e., “Call Bob for a reference,” “Review my resume”)
- Fundamental First Step: The action you must take toward a goal/project before any further actions can be taken. (i.e., in order to “Find a better job,” you must first determine what kind of job you want; once you’ve determined that, you can do things like update your resume, browse Craigslist for available positions, etc.).
- Next Step or Next Action: Literally, the immediate, next step toward your goal; what must be done before anything else can occur.
**The most important thing to understand about Next Steps – and everything we will talk about from here on out – is that they are self-perpetuating; in taking one, the step that comes after it will be revealed.**
For example, when you call Bob for a reference, he may tell you that he heard of an opening at this great new web organization, or say something that brings to mind a key point for your resume. Even if nothing more than the intended reference comes out of the phone call, you have already broken down your goal enough to easily extract a Next Action from your brainstorming; this becomes more intuitive as time goes on (and, as we translate this concept into a system, you’ll have a master list to refer to when you feel “stuck”).
This means that almost as soon as you reframe your approach to the traditional “to-do” list, all the hours you used to spend painstakingly outlining your step-by-step plan of action will be completely unnecessary – a thought both scary and liberating. Scary because you have to give up the (erroneous) idea that you can know and control exactly what will happen on the way to your goal; liberating because you will quickly find that you have a lot more time to devote to doing your goals rather than planning them.
Disclaimer: This does not mean that you will not be thinking ahead or that you will be acting with reckless abandon – quite the opposite, in fact. Planning and reviewing are key parts of the process of time management and goal-accomplishment – but ones that will take up very little of your time once your system is in place.
What is the Next Step you can take toward your current goal?
(Next post: An overview of the system.)