Lessons I’ve Learned in My ADD Management/Organization Journey (So Far)Posted: 2012/01/23
I’ve been compiling this list for a couple of weeks now, and thought my readers might find it helpful. (Actually, its original title was “Tips as You Embark On Your Organization Journey,” but I decided that telling from my own experience was more helpful than giving advice.)
- Be Gentle with Myself. My best fluctuates day to day, moment to moment. Progress is my goal, not perfection.
- It Isn’t Helpful to Compare Myself to Others or Hold Myself to Others’ Standards (perceived or actual). I’m not that guy, I’m me. I can learn from others, but ultimately, my experience and circumstances are mine alone, and if I try to follow someone else’s example to the letter without adapting it to those, I just end up frustrated.
- Expect the People Around Me to Keep Doing What They Do. Just because I’m focusing on getting a handle on my mental, physical, and digital clutter doesn’t mean everyone else will – or that they need to. (Examples: partner, family, roomies, boss, coworkers, friends…)
- Let Go of the Idea that Everything Has to Be Done NOW. Now may be the only moment I have, but it violates the laws of physics to think that I can fit every goal, task, interest or chore into it. What has to be done now? Breathing in and out (if I stop doing that, “now” gets rather short). After that? The next right thing that moves me forward on my goals. As long as I have a system in place for keeping track of “everything,” the important stuff will get done, and the not-so-important stuff, well… won’t. And that’s okay.
- Let Go of the Idea of an End Point. Again, it’s all about progress. A wise person once told me, “All living things are either growing or dying; if I stop growing, I start dying.” I’m not going to reach a point where my house is immaculate 100% of the time, my exercise routine is perfect, my projects are all done, and I generally have “everything” in order. There will always be a dish to wash, an interruption to my routine, a new project to replace a finished one, and new information to sort through. I choose to view all of these as opportunities for growth rather than obstacles to an impossible point of “perfection.”